Do S'pore women expect too much?

There's an interesting article that popped out on today's Straits Times on the Lifestyle section.

The title read as the title on my blog: Do Singapore Women Expect Too Much?

Now, as a woman in Singapore, i think i need to stand up and defend my female kind. I think generically it's not just about women in Singapore, but as a woman as a whole.

I can tell u what i (and prob all ladies, please get ready to say "Amen") expect my date to do (and if u are male and u happen to be my future date, TAKE HEED! Haha):
1) Open the car doors for the ladies.
2) Foot the bill on the first date (but i think i'm fine as an independent lady to go dutch, but it shows u hasn't gone through manhood 101)
3) Send the missus home after the first date. (and every other one, even if u don't drive)

Simple right?

I mean, i'm not asking for the moon right? I don't expect them to say that i'm the prettiest and bla bla bla and dunno what, because that will be lying. I think these 3 simple requirements on a first day is very simple.

Anyway, according to this report, ladies also expect men to carry their handbags for them.

Which i think, it's nothing wrong at all. I mean, i don't expect men to do that for me, but if i carry a very heavy bag, i think it's a really sweet gesture. And i see the couples in Church, the men will carry their girlfriend's bag, be it a light or heavy bag.

So because of this, the men in Singapore feel that we women are pampered? It should be a SOP ok. Man, i can't imagine it la, when i carry a lot of things, and walking around, and there are a few men that are just staring at me carrying them and don't even move their arses to help. I think, they are not men. They are only male by birth, whether if they are men by choice, i leave it to them la.

Ok, enough of males, let's see the statistics on this Social Development Service Survey on dating traits (took it from page L3 of straits Times, Feb 24,2008):

• 80% of women expect their boyfriends to pay on dates and 92% of men do (whatever where the 8% of males doing?)


• 50% of women expect men to open the doors to cars and restaurants and 88% of men will do so (let me guess; these 12% males think that the ladies should serve them, is that the MCP mindset at work??)


• 90% of women expect men to send their girlfriends home after a date and 94% of men will do so.


• 96% of women expect their boyfriends to initiate their celebration of special occasions such as anniversaries and birthdays and 92% of men will do so. (U can give without loving, but u cannot love without giving - and i think usually girls will be more sensitive about dates of special occasion. Men, it's a chance for u to score points, no doubt!)


• 88% of women expect their boyfriends to dress up for special occasions such as Valentine's Day and birthdays, while 78% of men will do so. (Males; imagine if you want to bring out your girlfriend to meet your friends, and she dresses nominally, u will feel pissed, isnt it? So do only your gf what u want her to do to you)


• 24% of women expect their boyfriends to carry their handbags and 70% of men will do so.

In summary, according to this report, Singaporean ladies' expectation of men are as below:
1) Celebrate special occasions such as birthdays, first date, first introduction etc etc etc.. (yeah we ladies are just so particular about dates, it's inbuilt)
2) Send their girlfriends home (to their doorstep) after every date.
3) Dress well for special occasions (which i foresee the ladies in turn will do so too)
4) Pay for expenditures accumulated during dates.
5) Open doors of cars and restaurants for the missus
6) Carry their girlfriend's handbags for them.

I think, these are really, the minimal requirements. The men can do more than that, if they want to.

We aren't expecting very much, but it will be so good if Singapore men are a bit more caring and sensitive.